Do you remember ‘Show and Tell?’ The anticipation and excitement you felt when you were five years old and it was your turn to show your favorite possession and then tell about it? When you join an online dating service, you have much the same feeling of anticipation and excitement. The prospect of having people approve of you and possibly accept you as someone they want to have around them is exhilarating. But how do you create a powerful and perfect online dating profile? We have all heard that honesty is the best policy…It is. Be honest. The person you are trying to attract will eventually agree to meet you if you have written an eye catching profile. Statistics show that people can only keep up a façade of playing someone other than themselves for 3-6 months. Do you want to find Mr./Mrs. Right only to lose him/her because you have become Mr./Mrs. Wrong to them? Adhere to the honesty policy. Be clever and funny, but be sincere. If you’re funny, then show it in your writing. Don’t tell someone you’re funny, e.g. “I’m funny and have a great sense of humor.” That won’t make them a believer. Here is an example of something funny and clever. Football fans will enjoy this one. (This is not for your profile, but used as an example of funny lines I have used when talking to an audience.): “If your partner is more concerned about that 3rd and 1 on television, than the 4th and 23 in your own living room, then you might be another statistic on the playing field of love. Tell them to not try for a 58 yard field goal, go for six instead.” Do you see what I’m writing about? Word pictures are very powerful tools that help draw the reader in and help to reveal who you are and what you are about. Another important aspect of your online dating profile is you. Show them a picture of you. A picture speaks volumes (as long as the listener is tuned in) about who you are. If you say you are sporty but have a picture of you sitting on a couch, what does that say? Use a picture of you on a bike, in a race, waterskiing, etc. The eyes reveal a lot in a picture. If they sparkle with what’s called a “catch light,” the viewer will be more drawn to you. (A catch light is the little light that shows up on the pupil). If your eyes look suave, the viewer will probably click you away. Make sure to do a spelling and grammar check before you post to an online dating site. Words that are spelt incorrectly and bad punctuation can tune a lot of people out and then they will click you off. A few last words of advice: Forget about negativity in your profile and don’t talk about ex-relationships. That will give the reader a sense that you are a serial dater and perhaps a heartbreaker. Avoid phrases like: “I don’t play games.”; “I love long walks on the beach, candlelight dinners, and romantic nights by the fire.” You can show them that when you meet them. Every person I have surveyed in the past has said that lines such as the above are red flags and a sign that he/she is a “player.” Online dating can be fun, exciting and successful, but be safe and enjoy the process. When you finally connect with someone on an online dating site, agree to meet at a coffee shop during the day. To your success in every way, every day. Jaci Rae �" “The Rae of Hope TM” Copyright 2006 Jaci Rae is the #1 Nationally Best Selling author of “Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time” and “The Indie Guide To Music, Marketing and Money” ISBN 978-0-9746229-4-1. Jaci also hosts the popular “Jaci Rae Show,” heard live around the world. With top music executives that share insiders information such as: Thom King (former VP of Clear Channel who now tells it like it is and works in getting sponsors for artists), Mike Corbet (former A&R for Mariah Carey, et.), Peter Visvardis former Director of A&R for Sony Records, Harvey Cooper former VP of RCA Records, Jordan Keller legal counsel for The Backstreet Boys, etc. To gain valuable career advice, tune in every Thursday night at 8 PM PST, by going to: www.jacirae.com and clicking on the weekly show link to find out who’s on and how to tune in. Guests can email their questions live. Dubbed by the media as "Racy Jaci" because of her quick wit and "The Rae of Hope," for her powerful insight, please make sure to check her out at: http://www.jacirae.com
JACI RAE, THE NEW FREUD ON THE BLOCK!
Jaci Rae the New Freud on the Block!
“I long for the day when we are no longer defined by race, color, or class, but by a world that is undivided and unified by compassion, understanding and love.” Jaci Rae
Jaci Rae’s new #1 Nationally Best Selling book, “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time”, is brilliantly executed and creatively explicit in targeting the most difficult audience on the planet, the American male. “Winning Points” is not really the Freudian kind of advice you’d expect, but you are in for a treat.
Kick back, relax, put your feet up and make sure the lighting is just right. You’re about to read one of the most insightful books on female behavior ever produced. A definite must read of this millennium!
Jaci Rae is a star quarterback in her portrayal of the battle of the ultimate 'super-goal’ for men and women and just what it takes to get a ‘touchdown’ for both sides.
Where does she get all that dynamite expertise? Her own life experience, of course. So, who is Jaci Rae? And just where does she get the nerve to lay out the ‘playing field?’
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Jaci Rae is an extra-ordinary woman who never gives up and just won’t accept the status quo. She began her amazing public life at the Jerry Lewis Walk-a-thon when she was just five years old. Bravely walking into the crowd of the JLW, Jaci walked that year not knowing she needed a sponsor, only knowing she had to walk for those who couldn’t. At 6 she came back with the needed sponsors and a burning desire to help. Jaci won the award for walking the farthest as well having the most sponsors in the youth category.
Action and re-action amused and excited her. At 8 years old she began writing poetry to express her curiosity of life. Her curiosity continued and by the age of 9 Jaci had read many books on the study of communication, relationships and the human mind, taking note of the minute details of behavior. By the time she was 15 Jaci had read countless books on communication and psychology in addition to taking a course in psychology. She privately studied forensic science including FBI profiling and the criminal mind. Jaci entered college with a minor in psychology and a major in music.
As a result of working as a youth counselor in her early years, and her observations and research in psychology, Jaci understood the need to communicate effectively in order to avoid “Getting Benched” (chapter 8). With the divorce rate at almost 50% Jaci just wasn’t satisfied to learn from her professor that psychologists, counselors and psychiatrists had an even higher divorce rate. Something was wrong. Jaci made the decision to write about these types of problems while she worked mostly on developing her musical talents. Being a psychologist wasn’t appealing anymore. However, getting past the behavioral obstacles still was a major curiosity to her.
Sidebar: (In 1992 the divorce rate was 0.48%. However, the last-reported U.S. divorce rate for a calendar year is 0.40% per capita per year, the provisional estimate for the year 2002 from the National Center for Health Statistics. The highest divorce rate continues to remain among psychologists and psychiatrists.)
Jaci’s writing career began when she was asked to write a distribution article for DiscMakers magazine. Subsequently, due to her extraordinary musical successes and writing prowess she was asked to write many articles that in turn led to writing her first book. She has written ten books, most designed to help people communicate more effectively. The rest are designed to help people succeed in understanding music, understanding life, and understanding self. She has been on numerous advice panels, and has routinely been a guest writer for various magazines. Her first book, “The Ultimate Guide to Music Success” became itself a success and a reason to continue writing. With one book after another under her belt, she finally “tackled” the difficult subject of relationships.
Jaci’s newly released #1 Nationally Best Selling book, “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time – How To Score For Men and Women” addresses relational problems for men. The book is designed to help men and women appreciate the loved one in their lives while enjoying every bit of the game. She creatively uses a language that most men can understand and enjoy. Her premise is that “once your mate is satisfied, they'll spend a lifetime wanting to satisfy you.”
Jaci’s other achievements include several hit singles and award winning discs, with an emphasis on Country. She has won several awards such as “Female Vocalist of the Year” with GMA in Nashville, Tennessee, the Levi Strauss award to name a few as well as mastering several musical instruments and professional photography.
Her upcoming release of, “Cant Push a River” reflects the attitude of her continual “Molly Brown” outlook. Jaci Rae is, after all, an extra-ordinary woman.
To find out more about Jaci Rae – “The Rae of Hope,” go to: http://www.winningpoints.net
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